Robin Williams Death Cause

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RIP Robin WilliamsWhat can we learn from someone who seemingly had it all like Robin Williams taking his own life?

Expectations are such a powerful factor in determining ones happiness. They can either motivate you or make you depressed. Expectations of material wealth, expectations of status, expectations of relationships, etc.

Gratitude and perspective are your ammunition against your seemingly failed expectations getting the best of you and stealing your joy. Happiness is a choice you make by finding a reason to appreciate all that you have even on your darkest days.

I just read that Robin Williams had to pay out tens of millions in alimony to his ex wives and was “forced” to take a job on a television series because he needed the money. Doing this in his 60s was not where he “expected” to be at that point in his life which was part of the reason he was depressed.

Gratitude and perspective. For most people, having a job on television is a dream come true. But for him, it went against his expectations of himself and was not a desirable thing. Now, I’m sure there were other factors that contributed to his depression, but there is a lesson to be learned from a man who was a comedic legend with a gift for making people laugh, becoming depressed and taking his own life.

Had he really put his life in perspective and had gratitude for all he’s accomplished and all the people who loved him, maybe he could have found happiness.

Don’t let your self imposed expectations of life cause you to be unhappy. Have faith, count your blessings, and play the hand you’re dealt to the best of your ability. That’s all you can really do. Remember that you are in control of your own happiness and how you let your life experiences affect you.

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25 Responses to “Robin Williams Death Cause”

  1. Sally says:

    Ron,

    Yes, I can definitely relate to this. Unfortunately my late mother was plagued with what is now labeled “Bi-polar” disorder. (it has been labeled many different things over the many years she suffered with this incurable affliction)

    It is sometimes difficult for those of us who do not suffer from this terrible disorder to understand the ones we love who do suffer from it. Mom was hospitalized 17 times before my sister and I even graduated from high school. I always felt bad that she was living out this torturous existence and the only answer was medication and hospitalization because they don’t know what causes it and there are no cures. I can only wish and hope that she is having a much happier time of it in the next go around!

    Your post here is a great reminder to me that there really is so much to be grateful for.

    One of my favorite quotes (for those of us who are strong enough to keep going) is: “When you’re going through hell, keep going!”

    Another one I came up with years ago is: “It’s mind over matter, if you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter!” That and keeping my great sense of humor in tact has gotten me through a lot of rough spots over the years.

    I now have my grown children and one grandchild (another due any minute and another due in April of 2015) to thank for more joy than I could possibly have hoped for. They sure do keep things in perspective.

    My heart goes out to Robin Williams’ family, friends and fans. It is a devastating loss for us all.

    Sally

  2. Theresa says:

    So very very true….to think that someone made so many people laugh would be depressed makes you wonder. The fact that he didn’t want to take another job on television makes you think–how could this seemingly successful person be so unhappy? Doing what you want to do in life is very subjective and no matter what the difficulty is, you can always find something to be thankful for….and conversely something to bitch about. There is always something good and there are always people in worse shape than you are. Remember that and rejoice for exactly where you are right now. Generally suicide makes me more angry than sad. I think, how can they do that to the people around them who loved them? But for Robin Williams, I wonder if he felt unloved, even as the world loved him. Sending Robin prayers and blessings…

    • rondouglas says:

      Depression is a serious mental illness. I’m not sure to what degree he suffered with it, but may he rest in peace.

  3. Linda says:

    I have never felt as though I wanted to take my life or even to hurt myself in any way, shape or form. I have watched my husband die a slow death waiting for a heart transplant that wasn’t to be. Nine years later, my daughter died after being sick for 5 years. I am now raising her teenaged daughter. I have ALWAYS felt as though I may not have everything I would like to have, I knew that I had so much more then many others had. My grandmother had a saying she would say to us “I cried because I had no shoes until I saw the little boy who had no feet”. We can always find someone else who has more than us and we can also find somebody who has less then we do. Somebody is prettier than me but then again, I may be prettier then the lady down the street. Your house might be bigger then mine but mine is bigger then the other guy’s. I don’t need money, big houses, expensive clothes and big cars. Your happiness depends on what you want out of life. Step back and take a good look at your life. Nobody is responsible for your happiness but you. Depression can be tough but I think you have to want to be well before it can happen.

    • rondouglas says:

      thanks for sharing that Linda, so true

    • Patty Boeckman says:

      My heart goes out to Robin’s family. Robin’s face showed he was hurting yet no one picked up on this. He helped so many people and yet he never asked for help for his own problems and that is a shame. I know what it is like to have those stressful feelings because I am By-polar and I have to deal with my emotions every day of the week. I have to reach out to others to make sure my doctor and family knows I need help. We can’t do by ourselves no matter what the situation is. I enjoyed most of the movies Robin played in. Just remember to reach out and seek help no matter what the occasion is because it is there.

  4. Katie says:

    I have a deep empathy for people who suffer with depression. I have worked in the mental health field for well over twenty years. Depression is a mental illness. If left untreated it leads to a downward spiral. often leading to suicide. As with all mental illness. it is met with stigma and misunderstanding. Many people walk around feeling “sad” but when sadness lasts for longer than a few weeks, it may be depression. Sometimes people give us verbal and physical clues The clues are often missed because people are not aware of the signs depression presents when merging into the deep darkness the precludes suicide.
    Feeling grateful and having a positive perspective is a way to cope with mild depression but when a person enters the deep, dark depression they can find little to be grateful for and the perspective becomes seriously skewed. The only chance to overcome this type of depression is through medical intervention and therapy. Depression is a deep sadness that is often the catalyst to life altering actions.

    • rondouglas says:

      It’s certainly a mental illness that can spiral into a person feeling like they have no choice but to relieve the pain they’re experiencing by taking their own life. I don’t blame Robin Williams for his mental issues. My goal with this post was to possibly help someone gain perspective before feelings of depression begin or start to spiral. Hopefully my good intentions are taken the wrong way. I don’t pretend to be a mental health professional by any means.

  5. Joel Helfer says:

    Dear Ron,
    I enjoyed reading your article very much.
    It gave me additional insight into my own recent story of struggle.

    Five months ago, I woke up one morning with no strength. I could hardly stand up. My wife called the fire department and I was carted away in a fire ambulance. I got the firemen to turn on the siren to make it more fun?

    That event led to a series of 5 major illnesses , 3 stays in the hospital and two stays in a rehab center totaling 0ver 150 days. Two of the illnesses almost sent me to visit my departed relatives, but that God they still felt there was a purpose for me on Earth. To say I was down, depressed, and forlorn ii’s an understatement. Not to mention the fact that my wife was totally nuts and wondered if we would ever have a life again.

    Fast forward 5 months later, till today when I am home, taking pretty good care of myself and almost well. I’m still sitting in a wheel chair and need a walker to move around. The reason I told you this tale was for this reason.

    My dad, Herman, my friend, mentor and life giver taught me this. “Always have a little fun every day. Don’t save it up”. So in the worst of times, I always found a way to have a little fun, even if was acting like an old sick man and making those around me nuts.

    I never lost hope, and was anxious to continue working on my little internet business. Went I got home, I found an offer to work with Tom Beal. I took advantage of it, made a new friend, who introduced me to you Ron.
    That introduction led to an opportunity to have a webinar tomorrow with your Second Income Club about how to gain authority. Another day of fun.

    The lesson I learned from your article and from the last five months of angst is that your attitude and the way you cope is the best medicine. You must continue to believe you will get better, yet enjoy the moment with a little fun. It was my prescription for dealing with the single greatest battle of my life, which is about 80% won.

    Unfortunately our great Robin Williams. one of the most outstanding talents of the 20th century, who gave large amounts of fun to the world, couldn’t find a way to have a little fun on his last day and chose to end it, rather than continue the struggle. My prescription for any problem, no matter how difficult, or life threatening, as it was in my case, is to have a little fun ever day, and look forward to more of the same the next.

    Really looking forward to the Authority webinar tomorrow. It should be great fun, and hopefully I’ll be aboe to provide a little value to the listeners as well.

    • rondouglas says:

      Thanks for sharing that Joel. I’m glad to hear that you’re pulling things together after those experiences. Talk soon.

  6. Hi Ron
    I have been a follower of your I believe since 2005. A very good article God needs to be in our lives and country. God is the only true happiness!!
    This is my new website, take a look. I have attended some of your internet meetings but haven’t found what I think would help, probably because I do not really know!!!
    Sincerely
    Dorothy

  7. Barbara Troia says:

    It is hard to understand when a person appears to “have it all” to take their life. One time only did I feel so down that I considered blowing my brains out – shortly after my husband dropped dead at work with a heart attack. I had counseling and never again considered something so stupid. I had a little boy to care for. I am so glad I chose to live my life to the fullest and see my son grown and doing well.

    I truly wish Robin could have learned to count his blessings and think about the millions of people he brought joy and laughter to brighten up their days. I will never forget the many movies he did and the joy derived.

    • rondouglas says:

      No one knows what was really going through his mind at the time. He must have been really suffering to take his own life.

  8. Sjoerd Droog says:

    Hi Ron,

    I never felt depressed but like most people, I feeling a little bit down sometimes. Enough about me, I like to ad my comment about Robin Williams!I think, Robin had a bipolair disorder.
    What’s your thought about that ?
    I know one thing for sure. The world lost a great actor and commedian .
    I’m dutch and the dutch television shows the movie “Good will hunting” tonight. I’ve seen it before but I’m gonna see
    it again!

    Best Regards,

    Sjoerd Droog

  9. Mitch says:

    Depression happens to people from all walks of life. Just to bad he didn’t talk it out with someone. But having walked in his shoes most of my life I can understand his final act of desperation. You just want, need to escape where you are in your head, it’s not like just being unhappy and go shopping or something to become happy. When you are down in the depths you see no end to it, no coming out the other side, you feel so f*#&ed up and helpless you want it over and so you take it into your own hands. You don’t wish to hurt others, your loved ones, friends etc, you just want relief and you want it now. I’ve been there many times and thankfully pulled myself through. It gets tougher and tougher the longer you deal with it. As the years go by you go deeper into depression each time, less resilient, less hopeful, exhausted and you just don’t want to or have the energy to get better. It’s debilitating to say the least. People like Robin have the resources to pursue any treatment available and still succumb to the demons. Many others aren’t so fortunate in that regard and just give up.

  10. Cynthia says:

    You are correct in the fact that if we take time each day to feel graitude, and find something of joy and meaning each day, expecially during the darkest days, we will lift ourselves up and be able to continue. If only for a few more hours or days. There are times, when we are so deep into our despair, we cannot see or feel the light. I have been there a few times, and it is awful. I believe that is what happened to Robin Williams, I am sorry to see him go, but happy that he can begin healing on the other side.

    My daughter had stage 3 ovarian cancer last year, my father, who I adore, was dying. My daughter would call and we would cry together for a few moments, and then she would laugh with me about the very thing that frightened her, she would laugh at what the cancer and chemo were doing to her. My father had that same spirit, and it has carried us through so many things.

    I am grateful for your emails, I am grateful for your spirit, I am grateful for the life of my precious child, and for the prayers which carried her through. Prayer groups are wonderful places to go (email groups are wonderful, they reach hundreds, if not thousands). If I were to feel low again, I would reach out to several prayer groups for help in finding the light again. I do light work every day.

    During the darkest times in the last few years I found these things helped: Taking a pot of tea to my room, cry when needed, watched spiritual programs, read spiritual books, or just any great book. (Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday!), watch comedy, and came back strong knowing that I will get through anything. Reach out! Find a friend who knows you, who loves you, and will help you cry, and then LAUGH. Be grateful for the sun, a tree, an animal, find something tender to enjoy. That can be the start of your ‘prayer’. Or, it can be your whole prayer.

  11. rondouglas says:

    Wise words Cynthia, thanks for sharing.

  12. Bob Charles says:

    This article actually put a few things in perspective for me… So much so that I re-posted the link out to my personal google plus account which is something I very rarely do! The take away for me is this.

    A lot of times it is not actually the truth or the outcome that is important. it is only our expectation of the the outcome that determines how we end up feeling about any given issue or situation e find ourselves in. Perception is everything.

    I think we all have to spend more time forgiving ourselves for our failures and shortcomings and less time considering how much of an impact a bad situation or mistake can have on our overall lives. It’s a marathon not a sprint, and if we allow the bad times to roll of our backs and take account of all the blessings and opportunities we have to make tomorrow better, everything looks different. I think I am going to start smiling more often Ron… Life is good!

    • rondouglas says:

      No doubt Bob. I’m glad to hear that you found this article helpful and even shared it. Awesome. Stay positive, have a short memory when things don’t go your way, and keep moving forward.

  13. Landa Culberson says:

    Sorry Ron, I forgot to leave the email address. Maybe you can put the two together. Thanks for doing all you do.

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